Positivity and confidence are important building blocks in life. Often they are the prerequisite for other positive changes. They keep us moving forward (instead of looking backwards) and connected to others. Here are some simple ways to build mood and confidence boosters into your everyday life:
- Evaluate your choices: Take inventory about what is currently going on in your life: in your relationships, workspace and environment. Determine the aspects of your life that you can change positively, then focus on them. Also acknowledge the things that you cannot change, and move on. Make sure to only invest energy in the things that are worth your while. It may help to write them down.
- Eliminate negativity: If there are people and situations that leave you drained and grumpy on a regular basis, re-evaluate their place in your schedule and your life. For example - a friendship should leave you energized, rather than drained, most of the time.
- Stop blaming yourself: When something doesn't go as expected, don't dwell on it. Rather than beating yourself up about human mistakes, take a deep breath, regroup, and figure out your next steps.
- Make time for exercise: This helps burn off stress hormones and leaves you feeling relaxed and refreshed. Exercise is also known to counteract mild to moderate depression and improves confidence.
- Get social support: Make time for dates with friends. This helps reduce stress, improves health, and gives you something to look forward to.
- Learn something new: Novelty is good for the brain and the soul. Pick up a new hobby, craft, skill, or language. You will improve your confidence and may meet new people that share your passion.
- Reward yourself: Break down your goals into small, manageable benchmarks. When you reach a benchmark, reward yourself with something healthy. For example, after you finish cleaning a room, make time for a healthy snack or a phone call to a friend.
- Nurture your mind: Surround yourself with positive music, entertainment, and art. Avoid movies or TV shows that leave you feeling stressed, anxious, and negative.
Make self-care a priority in your life. If this is consistently hard for you, you may wish to consult with a licensed mental health professional for support.