Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

There is an irony - the fact that Halloween, where everything is fun and games around ghosts, spirits, and haunted houses also marks the end of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. 

Many survivors of domestic violence continue to be haunted by their experiences even after they exit the dangerous situation.  Statistics show that 1 out of 3 women will become or has been a victim of domestic violence. Men, women, and children are victims of domestic violence and abuse daily.

Below find some warning signs that a relationship is becoming emotionally and potentially physically abusive:

  1. Becomes involved quickly and pushes for a quick relationship

  2. Jealous and possessive, exhibits frequent calling and checking in behaviors

  3. Exhibits controlling behaviors

  4. Unrealistic expectations

  5. Isolates you from friends and family

  6. Blames others for his/her problems, feelings and mistakes

  7. Checks your phone for text messages and call history. May track you with GPS

  8. Says his/her feelings are easily hurt

  9. Cruel toward animals or children

  10. ”Playful” use of force during sex

  11. Yells and calls you names

  12. Subscribes to rigid gender roles

  13. Sudden mood swings

  14. History of battering

  15. Threats of violence

  16. Threatens to reveal personal or damaging information about you to your family, friends or employer

If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help from a professional and/or a trusted friend or loved one.  If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, please be non-judgemental and supportive and encourage the person to get help. 

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 1-800-799-7233

Eva Gortner